(aka why I love being real)
Have you ever felt like you’re not living your “real” life yet? Like your life is a dress rehearsal?
Let me tell you a story.
(I get you. That’s the feeling that got me into coaching.)
I used to be a chameleon, a shape-shifter, a people pleaser personified. “No” wasn’t in my vocabulary. I didn’t know who I was and my self-esteem was in the toilet. So I copied what I liked about others and faked my way through life. From handwriting to hairstyles. If someone asked for my opinion I’d get that old, familiar lump in my throat, my heart raced, my breathing stopped. I’d open my mouth to say something and…. nothin’! I had not one original thought. I lived in a constant identity crisis, like I had the starring role in “Three Faces of Eve”.
Then I read “The Velveteen Rabbit” by Margery Williams, the story of a stuffed rabbit and his quest to become Real through the love of his owner. This gentle, children’s story would catapult me on a path to the same “Real”ization.
Here's what that looked like:
Fourteen years ago, in my mid-forties, I went back to school. I learned the same energy-based tools and techniques I use today and started a business in my profession as a personal development coach. (Real scary!). I faced down my fears, switched out the voice in my head that said, "I can't, I'm too old”, for the voice that said, "I can, I will"....and I did. And I love it!
I’m married to a great guy, George -- 35 years now! My teacher once said that anyone who’s in a long-term, committed relationship will have opportunities to grow every day. Roger that! Together we’ve grown up, grown through, grown strong, and grown Real.
Fast forward to 2016. In addition to mastering a fabulous no-bake, vegan cheesecake, I'm certified as a Professional Coach and Strategic Attraction Coach. I'm also certified in Resonance Repatterning and have extensive training in Magui Block's Method, including Constellations, Healing the Family, Healing Systems and Organizations, and Attract the Love of Your Life (or Make the One You Have Better). And I’m skilled in over 150 energetic modalities that I use (not all at the same time) to keep me Real.
Finally, I volunteer, and have for 40 years. Volunteering, presently in the deaf community, connects me to people - real people with real stories of strength and courage (the same kind of people I meet through coaching). You know, those everyday heroes that don't make the headlines but who make a difference in the lives they touch, not because of what they do, but because of who they are.
So, no more identity crisis. I dare to show up, mask off, quirks and all. And, like the wise old Skin Horse in the “Velveteen Rabbit,” I now understand that Real isn’t how you are made. It’s a thing that happens to you. You become. And once you are Real you can’t become unreal again. It lasts for always.
What about you?
Could you be more real?
Let’s talk about it.
I’ll give you a free discovery session
-- and we’ll get real for 30 minutes.